When i was in my twenties, I was an idiot. I’m not sure why some people in their twenties (like my upstairs neighbors) lose capacity for rational thinking. It could be the surge of hormones and the raging desire to do things that, at the time, seem cool. Things like, renting out your apartment as a party spot. This is not only stupid, but dangerous.
Thankfully, I made it to thirty-seven. I can now look back at the ridiculous acts I committed and stunts I pulled, and shake my head in sheer embarrassment much like anyone else after their moment of clarity.
I have a bright, beautiful, compassionate twenty year old daughter. On the flip side, she is also lazy, spontaneous to a fault, and lacks common sense at times. This makes her guilty of nothing a million other twenty somethings, past, present and future, are not equally guilty of.
While I’d like to paint a picture of myself as that standout, mature composed twenty something, I was much more stupid than my daughter (thankfully) and can pass on valuable information to her and anyone else that will listen.
I know we all need to go through our share of turmoil and frustration. After all, it is not the successes we learn from, but the failures. There is, however, a fine line between stupid, and really freaking stupid.
This brings me to my upstairs neighbors. Who, in thirty days, will no longer be my upstairs neighbors. This sits bitter-sweetly with me. I wish greatly that there were no others involved in the eviction that the family upstairs received this morning. I hope for their sake the mother/wife gets her act together.
It was Saturday night and my boyfriend was at his second job. I had off from my second job this weekend because it was my Saturday night to have dinner with my daughter. I got home from seeing my daughter around 7:30 to the sounds of loud music and voices. No biggie. It was only 7:30 pm. I dashed out the door to meet some old friends I hadn’t seen in years. We ate, laughed and parted ways about 9:30. I came back home to louder music and banging. It was getting late, and I was slightly annoyed. But it was before 10 pm.
My boyfriend came through the door at 10:15 pm. The noise was still unbearable and we just gave each other a “this is ridiculous” look and discussed who would go up and knock to tell them to please keep it down if it continued. We even dug out the copy of the lease to make sure we were not overreacting. Right there in the lease it stated: “No loud music, noise or banging that infringes on the comfort of neighboring tenants”.
I was elected. My boyfriend said it’d be good for me since I am terrible at confrontation. After rolling my eyes along with various reasons why I disagreed, I went to go chat with the upstairs neighbors.
As I climbed the steps, I could see the overhead light on in the parlor. The blinds were cracked and hanging lopsided and there were empty beer cans on the small landing outside the door. The music was annoyingly loud and I realized at that moment I had crossed my internal threshold of age. When I got to the landing and was able to look in the door, I saw five people sitting in various types of chairs that I had never before seen. I knocked on the door careful to keep my face expressionless.
The twenty something kid closest to the door answered. I stepped into the doorway slightly, but never into the apartment. I was able to look to the left and see two more people sitting along the wall, also on mismatched chairs. I asked where the couple was that lived there. The kid at the door said the girl would be back. I then asked them if they could please keep it down. The ceilings are paper-thin, I said. The kid said sure, I said thank you and retreated down the steps.
As I walked down the steps, the first thing that popped in my head was, who the hell are all of those people. I had never seem any of them at the apartment. Secondly, where the hell was the living room furniture? I went back into my apartment, explained what I said and what I saw to my boyfriend and contemplated calling the cops.
I did not call the cops. I didn’t feel it was police worthy. Calling the cops would have brought flashing red and blue lights and a bunch of drama.
At about 12:30 am, the girl came home and my boyfriend lunged off the couch. He flung the door open and yelled something like, “Yo, can you keep it down? It’s after midnight and it’s freaking loud.”
She apologized, went up the steps and several minutes later, it was quiet. She came stomping down the stairs a while later and my boyfriend looked out the door to see her get back in her car with an open beer can.
The noise started again, and went on until 2:30 am, intermittently.
My boyfriend and I decided that we needed to tell the landlord in the morning. We went to the convenience store he owns, and sure enough he was standing at the end of the deli counter where he often times is every morning. We told him everything that transpired and he said, “That’s it. They’re getting an eviction notice.”
The boyfriend knocked on our door this morning and asked what happened. Apparently, they were served the eviction shortly after we went to talk to the landlord. It turns out that he and she were living together but separated. She doesn’t work and he can’t afford to get his own place. This explained to me why there were numerous men over the apartment at odd times and why he was never around.
My boyfriend went outside on the step to talk to the boyfriend and came back in. I felt bad for the boyfriend and the little girl, who I found out was upstairs with the seven strangers while the girlfriend was off getting more pot and beer. For the daughter’s sake, I hope to hell the mother gets help.
As we sat on the couch and reminisced about our twenty something years we heard the boyfriend yelling at the girlfriend about his daughter being in a house full of strangers. Then it clicked. Addiction makes people do stupid things.