It’s Better, It’s Worse… It’s Both

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I joined Oprah’s Lifeclass a few weeks ago and I have to say… I love it.  I am about ten classes in and am learning a lot about myself by answering thought-provoking questions that only I can see the answers to.  There is also a Daily Life Question that we have the option of answering.  It is linked to the users Twitter account.

As I read some of the answers (a lot of them anonymous) I shuddered at some of the things a lot of people have been through usually in great part by their parents.  I saw remnants of abuse, both physical and sexual, mental anguish, alcoholism, abandonment… :(

It just got me thinking.. like.. what the hell do I have to bitch about?  Ok, yeah.. my childhood wasn’t the greatest.. I have always been socially awkward and put a lot of my worth on my physical beauty (but am too lazy to do any upkeep on it).  I tend to talk way too much when I get nervous and yes.. I am an alcoholic.

BUT – I am sober!  I AM beautiful!  I grew up poor.. but I have character.  I have small boobs.. but I have a great butt!  I can be very indecisive, but when I know what I want.. no one is stopping me.

It is so important for me (and you!) to look at the silver lining in the dark, looming clouds that hover over our heads from time to time.

We have all been through our own share of hell.  I remember years of self-pity, beating my head against the wall as I cursed and screamed “WHY ME?!”

Well, why not me?  Bad things have happened to me because I have the ability to help others.  If all I can do is take my experiences and share them with another, then whatever I have been through is not in vain.

Whatever doesn’t kill you – makes you stronger. 

What experiences have made you stronger?

Comments

  1. What a beautiful piece and wonderful message, Darlene! What has made me stronger? Being on my own. Even though I lived by myself in college, mom and dad still helped support me. It’s not until you take full responsibility for yourself that you truly learn what type of person you are. I’m not perfect by any means, but I’m happy.

    PS – I just signed up for your RSS feeds (thought I already had, sorry about that!). Let me know if you add an email subscription option….

    • Hi Tiffany… good for you taking care of yourself. ;) It is hard work! And hey.. no one is perfect. As my co-worker says, “that’s why there are erasers on pencils.”

      I thought I had an email subscription box under my picture on the right hand side. If that doesn’t work, please let me know and I will fix it..
      :D

  2. Great advice from someone who has clearly “been there, done that.” Keep it coming Darlene! ;)

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