Anger: The Truth

Angry Talk (Comic Style)

Angry Talk (Comic Style) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I noticed something about myself yesterday and it wasn’t one of those, “oh wow, this is so cool!  I didn’t know I could do that!” epiphanies.  It was more like an, “are you freaking kidding me, why do I do this?” glaring defect.

Sometimes I act a certain way, think a certain way or feel a certain way simply because I think that I THINK this is what I am supposed to do.  Like, I really get upset over unmonumental bullcrap.  Sincerely. This light bulb went off in my head this morning.

So then I ask myself: “WHY AM I SO DAMN ANGRY?”  Like, why do I let my head control me to the point of borderline insanity?  I don’t know the answer to this question, but I do know that it drives me batty and I am in the painstaking process of changing the way I think so I can change the way I feel there by changing the way I act.

Simple? 

Sometimes.

Did you ever tell someone something and their reaction is along the lines of, “Well, just stop doing that.” or “Think about something else.” or (and this is my favorite) “Get over it.”

Get over it?! Cue bitter resentment teetering on unabated rage. “Nobody tells me to get over it!  I’ll get over it when I’m good and ready!” “How dare you tell me that.  You don’t know how I feel.”

Yeah, somebody call me the Waaambulance. 

So, this morning after much coffee and a bowl of Special K Fruit & Yogurt (okay, two bowls) mature thoughts started to creep in my head (kinda like a black goo, only not as ugly) and I started to think:

  • I do not have to feel this way! 
  • Anger is a choice and it’s on me if I choose anger (or any one of the subcategories of anger).
  • I can come back to these ugly thoughts later.
  • I will feel how I choose to feel today.

Let me repeat that last one:  I will feel how I choose to feel today.

And that there is the truth about anger.  We choose to feel angry, resentful, jealous, bitter and any of the other byproducts of hate.  We also choose to feel many of the byproducts of love.  We get to choose how we feel about anything at any moment in any situation.  We have that power. That’s some huge stuff right there! 

Today I have a choice and so do you. Today I will choose love over anger, confidence over insecurity and acceptance over jealousy.

What will you choose?

Comments

  1. Amen! It’s SO true, but if you’re caught in an anger mudslide, an easy way – okay a ‘way’ (I think) – to stop it is to do math.
    ~ Brain Info Bit – Anger’s controlled by your primal limbic system, the hypothalamus in specific. In order to combat these ‘primal’ urges, performing arithmetic activates your cerebrum, (your left hemisphere, more specifically) and this controls your ‘higher’ functions.
    In this case, higher beats lower.
    Solving math problems activates this ‘higher’ area, drawing attention away from your lower brain that controls your anger. Can’t be very emotional when you’re solving math problems.
    ~ ‘BIB ended ~
    Little unsure on the facts, but know that if you have a meltdown, doing math helps make you ‘not’ angry. And pray. God should be understanding if you through some ‘colourful’ words in. ;)

    • Good morning! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog here… I am impressed at how much you know about all this stuff.. sincerely. I’ll have to try that math thing.. I mean, hell, anything is beter than how I handle stuff when I get really angry these days… And boy, do I ever pray! So glad you stopped by.. :)

    • Joanna Aislinn says:

      Definitely some valid stuff in the reply above. Somehow, though, I can’t imagine being able to work math when my blood pressure is in the stratosphere. And doesn’t 1+1=11?

  2. I loved yesterday’s post, but this one has me laughing. Girl you are funny. This whole post is screaming with the best of the best choices. Thanks for reminding me who I can “choose” to be today. Lisa

  3. Of course, none of this anger control applies when two cars are blocking you on the freeway and you can’t pass, or the guy ahead of you sits through a green light.

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