More so in the last ten years than any other year there seems to be this strive for perfection. People want the perfect family, the perfect job, the perfect mate, the perfect nose, boobs, butt… I could go on forever. And don’t sit there like you don’t know what I’m talking about, because you see it, too.
Wake up people! There is no such thing as perfection… none. So strive away and kill yourself if you must trying to make it, do it, write it, sing it, draw it or look perfect.
IT. WILL. NEVER. HAPPEN.
But what we can do is strive for perfection. We can always do better, be better, act better, write better, think better, talk better, love better, work better….. we can always be better.
As an alcoholic (which translates to a sick mo-fo) one defect that plagues me to this day is the defect of “having to be perfect.” So in a sense, this blog post is written to me along with the rest of my awesome readers because I have been feeling insecure for the past week or so.
Insecurity is my warped devil. It tells me I will fail at everything. It tells me I am never good enough or anything else enough. I have to smash that devil with the hammer of hope. I have to tell myself that, “yes, I do have flaws, but my flaws are what make me the beautiful human being I am.”
Some days I believe it, others not so much. This is where my program of recovery comes in to play.
When I compare myself to others, I fall short every damn time. “She’s this, she’s that. He has this, he has that. Theirs is better. When am I going to get my just desserts?!”
When I compare myself to myself, I excel every time. This time last year I was living somewhere else, in a different (loveless) relationship and depressed. I was overweight (one of my ‘I never’s') and feeling like total crap.
I made a conscious effort after a mild epiphany to “Strive For Perfection.” And must keep in my mind I will never attain it, but striving for it will and has helped me continue my progress. Some days I have a mild setback, other days I kick butt! In the words of Dori in “Finding Nemo” – JUST KEEP SWIMMING.
We are as perfect as our imperfections…
Do you strive for perfection? Are you a perfectionist? How do you deal with the demand for perfection in today’s society?
- Perfection (written in 1994..but I still today have some perfectionist traits) (agesofstages.wordpress.com)
- Standing Out (iamlg19.wordpress.com)