I never knew what a character defect was until I stepped into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. I know, I am breaking my anonymity, but it is no secret I am a sober woman of almost seven years and I didn’t get sober alone. No one gets sober alone. We might stop drinking alone, but sobriety is deeper.
I found an interesting list of character defects in my research of things I’ve not committed to memory. Check out the list and see which ones might be screaming at you on any given day. Go ahead, this can be a kind of liberating fun (okay, I’m reaching).
When I did my fourth and fifth step with my al-anon sponsor, she said something really poignant. “Character defects are assets unchecked.” She gave me examples like the opposite of happy is sad and so on.
The opposite of humility is arrogance. These are both character defects. Yeah, I never thought humility would be a defect either, but too much of anything is a bad thing.
We turn our defects into assets by getting somewhere in between the two. This sounds like a challenge, and it is a challenge. However, challenges and that “I feel uncomfortable” help us grow and blossom into the human being we were always meant to be. Ya dig?
One of my chief character defects is laziness… interpreted through the Seven Deadly Sins: SLOTH. But my laziness is an asset in moderation. For example: It’s Sunday (as I write this it really is Sunday) and I am feeling sleepy, unmotivated and well, lazy. I can turn my laziness into an asset by assessing why I am feeling lazy. Am I just being a tree-climbing sloth or am I legitimately tired and need some rest? Once I do an honest inventory of my sloth-like ways, I can make an honest judgement (honesty is crucial when doing a self-imposed defect check!).
Each day I humbly ask God to remove my character defects that will not serve me that day. I take my will back.. frequently. As I work my program I am learning when I do this and then ask him throughout the day to take away the defects I don’t need. Sometimes my defects serve me… most times they don’t.
Check out the list of character defects/assets… are any familiar to you?
- Sloth (oceanofgrace7.wordpress.com)
- New Beginnings Day 84 – March 24, 2013 – Defects and all (beyondthebluefogbank.wordpress.com)